Letting go

"Letting go has never been easy but holding on can be difficult. Yet strength is measured not by holding on, but by letting go." 

Today, I was at my favorite coffee shop doing my work (working on my casefiles and stuff) while enjoying a cup of caramel frappe. I was listening to my current favorite song, Thru These Tears by Lany. 

"This hurts like hell. But i keep telling myself, It's gonna get better, But it's taking forever..."  

Next to my table, there were two women; one was crying and another one was comforting her. 

"I didn't know whether my decision of leaving him is a good thing or not". The girl in black hijab tried to hold her tears so no one could hear them. "It's a right choice of leaving a person who thinks relationship is a competition", said her friend. "You're not competing with anyone. What is the point of being with a person who constantly feel insecure with other couples and force you to be like them? He has no right to pressure you to be like others. He is just not ready for a relationship if he thinks that way. In relationship, it involves two person working together to achieve their goals. It doesn't involve anyone because this is not a competition," she added. 

"Why should you care so much about a person who cannot accept you for who you are? Remember when you told me that he tried to compare you to his ex-girlfriends? Why did he compare you to his ex-girlfriends? You are different from them. Everyone in this world is unique. You can't be me and I can't be you. We are all different. It's just pathetic to compare you to his 'failures'. His past relationship didn't work out tho. The worst thing is he can't get over with his past relationship. When he was with you, why did other girls were in his mind?" The girl was sobbing and she caught me looking at her. I looked away continue doing my work. My favorite part of the song came on- 

"In the end I'm gonna be alright. But it might take a hundred sleepless nights to make the memories of you disappear. But right now I can't see nothing thru these tears."

"Look, don't ever question yourself for leaving him. You did the right thing leaving a person who doubt you. He shouldn't doubt your love at the first place. He thought you didn't love him just because you refuse to have physical affection? He should respect your beliefs for not wanting to do those kind of things until you get married. You know what? Love can be expressed in various ways. You sit in silence with your significant others and enjoy their company is love. Sad that most people failed to see that smallest things we do is a form of love. If he was really in love with you, he would appreciate even tiny things that seem unimportant yet meaningful.  He just can't differentiate two things; love and lust. Now you gotta move on because what you did is right. Don't waste your tears over that guy."

The girl wiped her tears. She was thinking about what her friends said. She seemed to believe that her choice of leaving him is right. Her friend continued telling her that she deserves better. If she is still with the guy, she might be closing her opportunity to get to know the real one. "Jasmine, know your worth. One day, there will be a lucky guy coming into your life and accept you for who you are. He will not make you question your self-worth. He will make you feel better when you feel insecure with yourself. You have so many things to achieve in this life. Work on your goals first. The right time will eventually come." 

A few minutes later, both of them left the coffee shop. Jasmine looked happy. Yes gurl you did the right thing!! So what's next? Has she learned her lesson? Will she easily accept anyone entering her life? Will she choose wisely after what has happened? No one knows.